To Be (nice) or Not To Be (nice).... That Is The Question My sincerest appologies to W. Shakespear for that travisty...

Here's the deal. *Someone* went out with this guy a LONG LONG time ago... had sex... infact 3 times they have had sex... and it was not good... not quite awful... but not worth the time wasted.... *she's* a nice person... always gives someone another chance... figured that the first time may have sucked because it was their first time together, then gave him another chance... it still sucked... chalked it up to nerves... well the thrid time, *she* figured he's just a lousy lay. Anyway... this guy keeps bugging *someone* to meet him again, that she's so great in bed, yadda, yadda, yadda... *She* has been putting him off, for obvious reasons... He's an OK guy and all, but *she* does not have any feelings for him other than friendship (they actually did try the relationship thing a LONG LONG time ago, but he's not exactly Mr. Sensitive or Mr. Faithful). Anyway... Mr. Lousy Lay is bugging *someone* to go out with him again... How should she tell him that he sucks in bed, that she's rather have hemroid surgery than fuck him again, that if she was his hand he uses to masturbate with that she'd get a restraining order, that if she were stuck on a desert island with him she'd become celebate, that the thought of having sex with him is somewhere between bedwetting and a near death experience, that.... well I think you get the picture....

So... tell me... should she be blunt or tactful? I've given my opinion but she wants to know what others think....