Mens Thinking

I was having a conversation the other day, the subject was why men and women cheat. This is my theory. Men and women cheat for very differnt reasons... well let me revise that statement - MOST men and woman cheat for very different reasons - some will cheat for the same reasons - and not all men and women will cheat on their partners... ok... that said, I will now make broad sweeping statements about men and women in general and more precisely about men who cheat and woman who cheat, but still the comments and statements are broad generalizations, because as most everyone knows, the rules do not apply 100% of the time to 100% of the people, there will always be exceptions. OK, that's the end of my disclaimer. Men cheat for very simple reasons - and I say this with a certain amount of knowledge on this matter as I have had more than my fair share of relationships with cheating men - men cheat for sex. Plain and simply sex. They either want it because they aren't getting it/aren't getting enough, or as one of my cheating men friends put it so bluntly "it's not the pussy they are getting, it's to see what other pussy they can get." So some men are doing it because they are or precieve themselves as being sexually deprived and some just because they are in a constant state of heat - much like a dog who humps anything that stands still long enough. End of story. Why do women cheat? Women cheat for simple reasons also - they want to be loved. They cheat because the feel that they are not getting the love/emotional response from their partner that they want/deserve. Women are more likely to enter into a love affair and men into a sexual affair. There are of course exceptions, the woman who just want the hot steamy sex with the muscle bound pool boy because sex with hubby is boreing or the man who feels unloved and unappreciated who finds someone who will make him feel loved and wanted. AND of course this is the one that applies to both sexes - there are the revenge cheaters. These are the people who are pissed at their partner for something - mostly because said partner has cheated on them and they found out - and they are cheating to get back at them. This is by far the stupidest reason to cheat. One is less likely to look carefully for a cheating partner or be carefully in general - ultimately makeing and ugly situation down right scary. AND - the last and most pathetic reason - this also applies to both men and women - is because they want to feel young - they precieve themselves as getting old and not being sexy anymore so they have an affair to feel young and sexy again. Sad and pittiful.

Anyway - that's the end of my little 'study' on this subject. Thank you very much for your attendance at this lecture. Be sure to show up next time, you never know what the subject will be, but be certain it will not be boreing. ;o)

Off to bed - must work tomorrow.

I Am A Book Whore!

Today we went to the Hastings that is closing soon. They have 30-50% off everything in the store. I got the cookbook I mentioned earlier, hubby got a book - a module for 3rd Ed AD&D, Super Girl got a yo-yo book and a yo-yo and I got Coraline by Neil Gaimen... and Cabbage Patch swiped a Garfield book - luckily hubby noticed that she had taken a 5 finger discount before we got to far from the store and he returned it. Sheesh... my baby has criminal tendencies and she's not even 2!! (yeah I know this is normal for all little kids to do, my oldest has swiped many things in her toddlerhood - she even swiped something right infront of a friend who is a Priest... remember that D?) Anyway, when the kids went down for naps I took my new books and layed down on my bed to read. It struck me as funny, because I had books on my bed from this morning when Super Girl came into my bedroom to wake me (way to early this morning) and I had her get some books to read quietly so mommy could sleep a little longer... it didn't work... she didn't read quietly... hehehehe... So I started reading Coraline. It's a young adult book, I got it because I love the writer and I wanted to read it to my girls when they are a bit older (and will sit for a book that does not have pictures on every page). I'm truly enjoying this book, it's wonderful. I realized today that I really love children's books. I have collected children's books for many many years, mostly just story books and fairy tales and of course the classic tales by Anderson and Brothers Grimm. But I do love the kind of older children's books, not really 'story' books persay and not young adult books either. Some of my absolute favorite books were older children's books Edward, Hoppy & Joe, Podkane of Mars, Ribbsey are just some of the favorites I read when I was young. Hmmm.... what are some of your favorites from your youth?

Hmmm... Back to my book!

L - hehehehe... I just bought a cook book. I'm a cook book fanatic. If I still had Food Network, I would spend a lot of time watching. I love cooking shows, even ones with atrocious foods that I would NEVER eat. I bought a Jewish cook book, I've needed one for a while. I always end up looking up recipes on the internet when Passover comes around - then some of the things I hate, and some I like, and the next year I can't remember or can't find the ones I like. *sigh* Anyway - I bought one. I want to find this one that is recipes from concentration camp survivors - it's nostolgic, it has memoirs in with it. I can't remember what it's called, but I really want to find it. Oh and I was all excited, because one of the books I found was the Julia Child French Cooking cook book that I have and absolutly LOVE!! - It's the 40th anniversary edition - I was tempted but resisted buying - because I already have it (my copy was my mom's - a woman who had several cookbooks but was an awful cook - I have no idea why she even had this french cook book, I doubt she EVER made anything from it).
And parsnips are fairly high in carbs - higher than carrots - at 10 g per 1/4 C.

Blue Bell Facts

A - this is for you!!!
Q. Why do you have Gold, Silver and Brown rims on your half gallon ice cream cartons?

A. The different colored rims designate the cost of ingredients in different flavors. If a flavor cost more to make, we pass that cost along to the consumer. If a flavor costs less to make, the consumer is charged less. Blue Bell basic flavors like Country Vanilla and Strawberry cost the least and are in silver rim cartons.
Our famous Homemade Vanilla and flavors with fresh fruits and cookies cost more and are in the gold rim.

Flavors with the most expensive ingredients, such as pecans and pralines, are in brown rim cartons.

But no matter which rim color you select, you can count on all Blue Bell flavors to be the same consistent high quality ice cream--the best in the country.

And L this is for you!

Q. Can I have your Blue Bell shipped to me or my friends?

A. You bet! See "How to order" here on our web site!

I do love Blue Bell ice cream, I try hard to stay away from it as I do tend to be a complete glutton - expecially when it comes to Buttered Pecan, Pecan Pralines 'n Cream or Double Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough. I do like the Chocolate Moo-llennium Crunch, but that's just because of the funny little chocolate cows in the ice cream. I also love love love Ben & Jerry's , I love most of the freaky flavors. Must try this next Peace Pops! God only knows why they are called that, but they look nummy. Their web site is kind of cool, New York Super Fudge Chunk is my favorite flavor of theirs. they do have a lot of hippie political stuff on their web site also. Odd... I prefer my ice cream without the politics... but it's still good ice cream.

I Can Do Anything He Can Do... Better

The little people are down for naps (yay!!). The oldest went down at 1 pm (the youngest goes down at noon). I just finished cleaning and vacuuming my living room, vacuuming the stairs, vacuuming my bedroom, folding and putting away 2 loads of laundry, starting more laundry, wiping down the counters in the kitchen and sweeping the kitchen floor. I've also been sorting through the kids clothes to get rid of the clothes they can't wear anymore. I did all that in one hour and 22 minutes. The same thing would take hubby all day long. And it would be done sloppily. He always takes short cuts then later can't find the things he 'put away'. It makes me crazy. I know it's eaiser and usually faster to just do it right the first time. I've gotten extremely anal about house keeping in the past 9 months or so. I don't have my house dusted every day or anything like that, but I do vacuum every day and my laundry is generally done and put away a few times a week and I get pissed if the dishes are not done every day. I try to make sure that the house stays pretty clean, at least clean enough for unexpected guests - doesn't always stay that way every hour of the day - 2 kids make lots of messes. Hubby on the other hand... well let's just say messes don't really bother him. *sigh*

3XThursday 3/19/2k3 : All is fair in love and war - Judy's answers Thanks to Jake for the great questions this week.

The Iraq war started. Well life goes on.

1. So do you believe that war is an intrinsic part of human nature or do you think that world peace is a realistic goal?
Yes I do believe that war is just part of human nature.

2. Who was the greatest military leader of all time?
Attilla the Hun... no, Ghengis Khan... hmmm... not really sure, except that it probably was not someone from modern history.

3. Do you believe that the ends justify the means in the ways of love?
Sometimes.... hmmm... tough question, I've been on the receiving end of some crappy things that have happend - but all things turned out fine in the end, so maybe yes.

Bonus Question for Comments: Would you rather get married and then meet your soul mate, or never meet your soul mate?
hehehehe... talking about my life again. I'd want to meet my soul mate (Hopeing that will happen sometime in the not to distant future too!!)

Gilligan's Island Cast

French Stewart (guy from 3rd Rock).........Gilligan
John Goodman......................................The Skipper
Steve Martin........................................Mr. Howell
Dame Judi Dench..................................Mrs. Howell
Catherine Zeta-Jones............................Ginger
Kate Hudson........................................Maryanne
Christopher Walken...............................The Professor

I know, everyone was waiting for that from me. hehehehe...

MEN ARE PIGS!!!

Anyway - Sheesh - some men are total pigs. So I'm talking to this guy online, he sees my picture and in the conversation he says something about how he and I would make beautiful children, I just laugh. Then he says how 'Perfect 10' women make ugly babies, he'd rather have an average looking woman. I tell him that's not very complimentary, I consider myself to be above average looking. Then he says "well you have a double chin, so that detracts, but with your long long hair your a 10 to me." then he adds "And with your 129 IQ your an 11." So I'm thinking "FUCK YOU." Shit, never tell a woman you don't think she's beautiful - hell even just saying that she's pretty is enough, but fuck, don't tell me your shallow numerical rating for me. And I guess the thing that was pissing me off was that he's assumeing that I have an interest in him!!! NOOOOOOO!!! Sheesh, like I'd go out with someone who is so critical. He made some comments about things I'd have to change to be with him. Which I didn't even KNOW what to say to him, because I kept thinking "Ummmm... I don't think so! The more you talk the less I like you." Shit, that guy pissed me off. I sure as hell don't want someone who's going to say how they will only be with me if I loose some weight - I want someone who wants ME for me - who I am now - not who I might be if I weighed 20 lbs less. damn... What a jerk. Fuck him - I'm sexy no matter what the scale says.

Breakfast!

I make breakfast for my kids most days, and not just a bowl of cereal with some milk splashed on it. I make them things like waffles, scrambled eggs, pancakes, cinnamon toast (not all at the same time, ya know). I do this because my girls are notorious for NOT eating their dinners. I refuse to get into arguements over food or theaten them to eat, but I don't make them anything special, so it's their choice to either eat dinner or go to bed without it. Anyway, this morning Super Girl was saying that she was hungry. I go to make them breakfast, and remember this thing I saw in a magazine about making meals cute and fun for kids. I make toast and cut circles out of them, I cook eggs in toast holes, put peanut butter on the cut out circles, make a jelly nose, raisin eyes and mouth and bananna slice ears. Then put cheese on the eggs and add bacon to the plate. The girls ate the peanut butter circle and nothing else. Grrrr.... I was so irritated, they usually eat eggs and stuff.

Planting Of My Garden

Spring is here. I planted my garden... well not really a garden, just a pot with flowers in it. I'm going to plant another pot with herbs. *sigh* I'm kind of sad I can't plant a real garden this year. That has got to be one of my favorite things that I miss about my house. I loved planting my garden, then having it bloom. *sigh* I miss my gladiolas I planted the first spring and have come up every year (pink, purple and white). I miss the purple plant that I put around the tree in hopes that it would fill the flower box there, but it never did. I miss all the herbs I planted last year that I wrote the plant markers in water soluable pen so they washed off 20 minutes after I planted (it rained) and I had no freaking clue what was what. I miss obsessing over planting tulips and planning to plant the bulbs but never making it to buy bulbs in time. I miss spending the winter discussing and planning garden activitys for the spring. I miss walking trough the home and garden section to search out seeds, fertilizer, tool, etc. I even miss trying to trim my bushes and not killl them. I miss how every year by the middle of summer one of the bushes on the side of the house would die. I miss the garden spiders debates with hubby (I always wanted them to leave, he always told me to leave them alone... I never killed any, but I harassed many of them into leaveing). Anyway... Here's my little pot of flowers.

A - a jar of pickles... *snicker* that's pretty damn funny. Awww, come on, life isn't so bad. I know your husband is out of work, but at least you don't have to spend every fucking hour of every fucking day with him. *sigh* I know it's only been a week and a half since mine got laid off, but fuck!! I want him out of here at least part of the day! He's making me crazy. He's not being an ass or anything, and he is looking for a job, but him being home is just messing up my schedule (I'm so neurotic about my schedule). I know part of it is that the car has been in the shop for a week and that is just making it more stressful. SEE!! Your life doesn't totally suck! ;o)

Long Day, Icky Lunch, Surounded by Morons - Not Bad For $150!

Today I did this focus group thing - it was a mock trial - can't talk about it, confidentiality and all that crap (besides the fact that after being saturated with information on it from 8 am - 6 pm - I don't freaking want to talk about it anymore!!). It took place a little North of where I live - about 30 or so miles from me - straight shot up the freeway - in a rural area. So most of the people there were slack jawed country people (I know, bitchy of me) - hardly anyone knew what business attire is - most people showed up in jeans - one woman in a jogging suit - I show up in business wear (eh, at least I know I didn't look like a slob - unlike some people). So lunch - ick. they had sandwiches, ham, turkey and roast beef. Normally I love a good sandwich, but these sucked. They had all the stuff on them - including onions - which I hate. I took the roast beef - took off the onion and put on lots of mustard... the roast beef tasted like wet paper. Totally tasteless. I did not eat much of it. Just enough to get past the hunger. And they had potato salad with it - I do not like potato salad, and even if I did, I would not eat it on my low carb eating plan. So I did eat the marginal desert - which I know I shouldn't but I was still hungry after the two pieces of cheese off the sandwich and 3 pickle slices. After lunch, some of the people at my table were talking... sheesh... these people were the bottom of the gene pool. But all in all, it was worth it for $150.

Tisk, Tisk, Tisk...

What am I going to do with all of you? I left you with a task to do while I was away today and no one completed it... I'm going to have to take points off for that. Well I'm not going to give you the answers yet... give you all a chance to get your homework turned in. ;o)

Tuesday, Tuesday, Tuesday

I have to head off to work here soon, but I had to take a moment to write. Hubby and I were talking last night, and the subject came up of who we would cast in a NEW Gilligan's Island. hehehehe... I know silly, but I did love that show.

SO... here's the question...

Who would you cast in a NEW Gilligan's Island? Don't forget anyone, Gilligan, The Skipper, Ginger, Maryann, The Howells and the Professor.

Have a good day!!

Ekkkk!!! I fell prey to yet another silly quiz!!


You have a mysterious kiss. Your partner never
knows what you're going to come up with next;
this creates great excitement and arousal never
knowing what to expect. And it's sure to end
in a kiss as great as your mystery.


What kind of kiss are you?
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But it's kind of cute -

Lessons On Safety

Last night hubby and I were teaching Super Girl how and when to use the telephone to get help. She's four years old, so she really should know how to do this. I had her get two of her toy phones and we practiced what she should say and what buttons to push. We moved on to working with hypothetical situations. I said "OK, if mommy is at work and daddy bumps his head and won't wake up, you can call and ask for help. First you need to see if you can wake up daddy, so go wake up daddy." Hubby was in the recliner pretending to be unconscious, Super Girl walked over to him and said 'daddy wake up.' I said, ‘You need to shake daddy or something to see if he'll wake up.’ She smiles then smacks her daddy.... Right in the nuts! Hubby's eyes popped open and he covered his dangly bits ‘I'm awake!’ Luckily she hadn't hit him hard, just enough to surprise the hell out of him. I was laughing, trying not to laugh - trying to teach my child a lesson in safety, hubby was laughing. And I'm saying "not like that honey - like this." (still laughing) I go to shake hubby's shoulder then he starts laughing and covers himself again. More laughing. She goes to bed shortly there after. We laugh more, he says "Yeah I can see the paramedics getting here, 'what's wrong sir?', 'ohhh my daughter hit me in the nuts - she was trying to see if I was dead.' hehehehehe.... I think I'll have to check my first aid guidebook to see if there's a section on how NOT to wake a sleeping man.

Wal-Mart Greeters Need Lives...

Today was Torture The Kids Day! Woohooo! So we go shopping! Can't think of a better way to torture the kids than to take them shopping. We go to Wal-Mart - the Super, Mega, Huge, Uber Wal-Mart Grocery Everything Store to get groceries and sandals for the girls. It was brutal. Super Girl was in full whine mode. She poured chocolate milk down her dress, whined the WHOLE way to the store - an absolute 10 on the Torture The Kids scale. As we are standing in line she says she has to go potty, so I take her, she decides she does not want to wear her sandals since chocolate milk spilled on them and that she suddenly does NOT have to go potty. I try to get her to go for a few minutes, then I start trying to get her to put her shoes back on - no luck. She washes her hands and out we go. Hubby is walking up right as we leave the restroom. I am very frustrated with Super Girl and am still muttering to her about putting her shoes on. He takes note of the look on my face and says "Let me guess, she didn't go did she?" I said "no, and she won't put her shoes on now”. We are starting to walk out of the store and I hear someone say "ma'am, ma'am" I turn, it's an elderly woman who works at Wal-Mart, walking up to me, she says "ma'am, she can not walk around the store with out shoes." Motioning to Super girl's bare feet. I give her a go to hell look and hold the sandals out to the woman and say, "OK, fine, why don't you convince her to put them on." She looks at me indignantly and says, "Well she's not my child." I roll my eyes at her, say "Come on Super Girl, let's go." take Super Girl's hand and walk away, her still bare footed. Sheesh! Talk about someone needing to find something to do! We were walking out of the bathroom, meeting hubby who was pushing a cart full of stuff that had just been purchased - it was quite obvious that we WERE LEAVING the store and that I was having a discussion with my husband about our bratty little child - that was the last thing I wanted or needed at that moment. Besides, I don't recall a "No Shoes, No Service" sign on the Wal-Mart door.

L - good article on marriage. I don't think the statement of the article was that 'marriage sucks' (although many people's marriages do suck), I think it was 'Don't expect marriage to be a magical thing that will make 'happy'. And that is sound advice. I know of many many people who got married because they thought it would solve all their problems and they would wake up happy, happy, happy every day... and it didn't happen. The "And they lived happily ever after..." only happens in fairy tales and Disney movies. Happy marriages happen when people are happy with themselves, life and are with someone they want to be with and like to be with. And even happy marriages are not happy all the time. Marriage is a lot of work; it's so much easier to be single. I'm not knocking marriage, I like being married - even though my marriage is not the typical marriage and it's far from perfect... and ultimately we will divorce - I still like being married.

L - I saw that about the Dixie Chicks, and I too thought it was rediculous - but not for the same reasons. I do love that being in this wonderful country we do have freedom of speech so we can criticize our president and other elected officials freely. What I find irritating is stars making politicial statements - (either pro or con what I believe - doesn't matter). Why? because most of the time they come off as incredible morons when they start spouting off on political issues - many times they appear dangerously misinformed - and they make statements that are just stupid, but many of their fans will make make political decisions based on what these people are supporting or saying, and not on the real issues that they have researched themselves. Me, I do like the Dixie chicks - love their music, but I think the lead singer was just an idiot for making that statement. Entertainers should stick to what they get paid for, entertaining, not politics. As far as people boycoting their music, well that's the great thing about this country, not only do we have freedom of speech but we also have the freedom to not listen to people we disagree with. Kind of like changing the name of 'french fries' to 'freedom fries'... hehehehe...